Hearses Don’t Have Tow-Bars – But People Do Have Memories!

I go to a lot more funerals these days than 21’sts or weddings. And the weddings we go to are not our friends weddings, but the children of our friends. I can’t seem to remember when we passed through that demographic but pass it we did. They are interesting, these demographic levels – you only notice them after you have passed through – you look back and notice that things are somehow different, but you can’t pinpoint how or when it changed. Like the time I realised I was no longer the target demographic for leadership in church. And I notice that I am no longer the target demographic for most marketing campaigns. I refuse to acknowledge ALL invitations to get the ‘seniors card’ or accept special discounts because of age.

Anyway, getting off THAT subject, the point about going to more funerals brought an interesting thought to mind. You never see tow-bars on hearses. Fascinating that. Yet so many of us spend large portions of our lives and sacrifice so much to accumulate – stuff, wealth, property, possessions. Its all good and proper, but we can’t take it with us so what is it for?

Do we have a purpose for our accumulation? There are many great purposes – to set the family up for a good start, to provide for a comfortable retirement or to leave a legacy by investing in favoured causes are a few of the many good reasons.

Are there others? to have most toys? as a badge of honour? to beat the Joneses? to prove to those who said you couldn’t?

I wonder do we know clearly what it is really for?

“What do we want to be remembered for…?” is a question Michael Hyatt (MichaelHyatt.com) encourages us to ask and “What is most important to us..?”

Given the horror mentioned earlier of finding out I might qualify for a seniors card – I have been a bit more (OK a lot more!) intentional about making plans for this year – not about what to achieve or what to accumulate, but much more about what impact I want to have on my world and the people in it.

Hearses don’t have tow-bars – but people do have memories. I have a view that the most important legacy we can leave is not just our total net worth on Probate (though that is great), but the memories we leave in the hearts and minds of those we touched during our lives. In answering Michael’s question “what is most important to me…?” I find that it is mostly people and relationships that fill that list.

It will be great to leave abundant financial blessings in our will, and don’t get me wrong for a moment – accumulating wealth and prosperity is really good, but do we want to be remembered most for what we left in the will or for the great times we had together – that we were there when they needed us most and that our memory brings a smile to their face?

My Moment of Absolute Clarity this week is to encourage us to make the time to get absolutely clear on what it really is for and who it really is for and how we want to be remembered… so that what we leave behind does not need a tow-bar but does leave an indelible memory.

All the Best, Brian.

PS: I know it has been a while since I wrote last – thanks for your patience and grace. BM

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